Today is unspeakably hard for so many people. It’s emotional for all of us. I want to offer a word I haven’t heard yet, but it struck me as I was scrolling through my Facebook feed this morning. My feed was full of people saying things like- lets be kind, build bridges, don’t lose heart, it will be ok. And those are good things, thoughts I have had as well. But my feed was also full of people crying out in anger, fear, grief, mourning. Most of those friends are people of color, or in LGBTQ community, or of faiths different than mine.
Friends, maybe being kind right now is letting people mourn and cry out and speak their fears. Don’t shut them down. Call them up, ask them what this is like for them. Listen, really listen, to what its like for them to wonder if their parents will be deported, or if their kids are safe.
I am a white, middle class female. It is easy for me to say lets just be kind. If you are like me, I challenge you to take a moment to see this from another perspective. Talk to your friends who are afraid, and angry, and in mourning today. Let them vent, cry and let out their anger. Hug them and tell them you stand with them and we will walk through this together. Don’t dismiss them. You haven’t walked in their shoes.
And if you are one of those in mourning today, give yourself time to mourn. Reach out to friends. Process your anger. And know that you are not alone. I stand with you. So many beautiful people in this country stand with you. The only way to get through this difficult time is together.
Don’t give up on each other, friends.